I've been through certain struggles lately that made me the person I am today. I'm still learning, of course. To give in years of your life to someone that you think they mean the world to you is just simply.. wow. Many people nowadays live in the modern era where mobiles replace communication. Where art thou chivalry times, hm ? I wish I were a hopeless romantic. Maybe I just became one and don't know it, yet!
Few random emotions bumble through my head and day after day I wish some of them would stop because it turns me into regretting things I never done.. For some time now, I go to sleep in tears with swollen eyelids simply because I deeply wish things were different! When a new day comes, I hope for it to be wonderful and it ends up in the same stage - me crying a river and puffy eyes! I keep on doing same mistakes and it feels like a never-ending bridge. I just can't cross it safely. My life even feels unsafe! I am a danger to my own specie and I am the only one to blame. It hurts to say these things, because if I were alone, I would just have to switch on batteries and move on! But when you also have a partner next to you, oh well..things are not always roses and peaches. They're rather thorns with much laughter. Not the good laughter, though! It feels like there is always a competition. You say that status does not matter in a relationship! Then why do you always see celebrities marrying celebrities? I've never seen someone famous marrying a beggar from the street! When a woman starts complaining about how her man lost his emotions and forgot how to treat his lady.. then you know things just got fucked up. In this case, the easiest way is just escape. But no. Women have the tendency to just forgive and forget. Or let's just say only forgive. They also have the tendency to never shut up. A man should know and learn himself how to treat his lady by getting to know her which was supposed to be done in the first few dates! All any woman ever wanted, including myself is someone to show her how much she is appreciated just because she exists in your manly life and puts up with everything that she might not even like - your family, friends, choice of spending leisure time, sarcastic side and more.
Me, a woman, feels that she needs to be respected and treated properly by being surprised every single time the occasion rises! Save the moment and enjoy it then! Present tense matters deeply and if your woman is happy, you should be damn sure that you, the man will always be happy!
A woman matters most in a relationship because she is the one which might carry your children for 9 months, bleeds every month and still works sometimes harder than a man! Yes, you, the man reading this, open up your eyes and see what you really have in front of you - did she ever say no to you to hanky-panky? If yes, she might have had cramps or actually giving you something to think about in the first place. Did she ever shut up about you doing things wrong? NO, just because she literally cares about the relationship and makes an effort to make things right. The man usually responds by either ignoring or getting angry. Worst scenario ever. The woman is almost always right, just because we feel the world in a way different way than you, guys! We feel more than you feel, men! You only see what's in front of you! Us, women see all the colours in the world! Yes, we are from different worlds, but if you think that forcing ourselves and shoving a ladder up your mouths will help, you are completely wrong! You, men make things worse when you simply decide to not tell her how you REALLY feel! And when you do, most of the times is either in the wrong way said or even wrong timing! There's so much more to write, believe me, anger took over at this point but let's just not lose our minds, yet and analyze things.
Once things reach deeper meanings such as when talking about money, many men lose their minds just because a woman can buy even a whole store! Yes, don't get angry! Instead, go with her shopping and help her choose things that actually fit her so that she doesn't need to pay so much money on useless things! But no, you'd rather just complain and get angry that 'there is no money left!' Bullshit. There is always a solution for everything! Good things are solved only with good back! When talking nice and being creative - things turn to a different direction! But no! we, both men and women have the tendency to strike back, hard. In the meaning that everything goes from bad to worse, expressing everything from years ago up until now. That's just because you, the man, couldn't have sorted out things differently!
I'm not saying women are saints. No, on the contrary. It's just that simple and logic - you give good, you receive good! You give bad, you receive bad! It's karma! If you really wish to have a happy life, you must consider if being in a relationship is the right choice for you. It's hard work and dedication - just like a job. Except that you could receive so much more benefits daily just by putting effort, whereas with work, you work ages and only could step up one ladder higher. You don't live with work! You create your work, just like you create your relationship! If you want an easy life, you can have it! You just need to work for having an easy life and must believe in it 100%. No wonder there are so many people on this planet who get from 0 to billions! We, humans have such an amazing brain that we don't even know it! We can multitask, we can have a family - another human being - we can create love and nurture it or just live in hatred and dark clouds around our heads! Work hard for what's really worth it, not only for something that you believe with all your brains, not your heart. Work hard by choosing an easy path for your life - if you think that working 20 hours a day will bring you loads of money, fine by you! Then, don't complain for what you get! You get exactly what you need and how much you need. Everything you attract, it's there. Right in front of you! Stop for a moment and reflect onto what you've done and what you're doing - are you happy? does that make you feel happy? No? then change! Freaking change because if you don't do it, you make the same mistakes again and again and you don't evolve! You just stagnate, trust me! Every human being has his ups and downs! That's just simply wrong to blame people for their mistakes! Every person goes through struggles in their life and they might just need some help. Instead, they are being constantly reminded of their mistakes! When your partner says they love you, that means they are willing to give everything to him or her. They never forget about anything important to you and most of all, they help you get through struggles not make you get into deeper depression for your mistakes!
Yes, it does start from the person itself when talking about mistakes, but there is not one, but two people in which if none of them do nothing, nothing is done! If only one struggles for something the other doesn't feel important, the other one will literally not care and sooner or later will go away. Does only money matter on this Earth? NO. Modern society just wants to make you believe that. It's all over the internet.
All in all, a relationship is based on mutual trust. If there is no trust, there is nothing. There will be only thorns thrown across your window of happiness. Sooner or later, everyone needs to find his other half. Everything will seem as if you've known that person forever.
Love,
R.
Few random emotions bumble through my head and day after day I wish some of them would stop because it turns me into regretting things I never done.. For some time now, I go to sleep in tears with swollen eyelids simply because I deeply wish things were different! When a new day comes, I hope for it to be wonderful and it ends up in the same stage - me crying a river and puffy eyes! I keep on doing same mistakes and it feels like a never-ending bridge. I just can't cross it safely. My life even feels unsafe! I am a danger to my own specie and I am the only one to blame. It hurts to say these things, because if I were alone, I would just have to switch on batteries and move on! But when you also have a partner next to you, oh well..things are not always roses and peaches. They're rather thorns with much laughter. Not the good laughter, though! It feels like there is always a competition. You say that status does not matter in a relationship! Then why do you always see celebrities marrying celebrities? I've never seen someone famous marrying a beggar from the street! When a woman starts complaining about how her man lost his emotions and forgot how to treat his lady.. then you know things just got fucked up. In this case, the easiest way is just escape. But no. Women have the tendency to just forgive and forget. Or let's just say only forgive. They also have the tendency to never shut up. A man should know and learn himself how to treat his lady by getting to know her which was supposed to be done in the first few dates! All any woman ever wanted, including myself is someone to show her how much she is appreciated just because she exists in your manly life and puts up with everything that she might not even like - your family, friends, choice of spending leisure time, sarcastic side and more.
Me, a woman, feels that she needs to be respected and treated properly by being surprised every single time the occasion rises! Save the moment and enjoy it then! Present tense matters deeply and if your woman is happy, you should be damn sure that you, the man will always be happy!
A woman matters most in a relationship because she is the one which might carry your children for 9 months, bleeds every month and still works sometimes harder than a man! Yes, you, the man reading this, open up your eyes and see what you really have in front of you - did she ever say no to you to hanky-panky? If yes, she might have had cramps or actually giving you something to think about in the first place. Did she ever shut up about you doing things wrong? NO, just because she literally cares about the relationship and makes an effort to make things right. The man usually responds by either ignoring or getting angry. Worst scenario ever. The woman is almost always right, just because we feel the world in a way different way than you, guys! We feel more than you feel, men! You only see what's in front of you! Us, women see all the colours in the world! Yes, we are from different worlds, but if you think that forcing ourselves and shoving a ladder up your mouths will help, you are completely wrong! You, men make things worse when you simply decide to not tell her how you REALLY feel! And when you do, most of the times is either in the wrong way said or even wrong timing! There's so much more to write, believe me, anger took over at this point but let's just not lose our minds, yet and analyze things.
Once things reach deeper meanings such as when talking about money, many men lose their minds just because a woman can buy even a whole store! Yes, don't get angry! Instead, go with her shopping and help her choose things that actually fit her so that she doesn't need to pay so much money on useless things! But no, you'd rather just complain and get angry that 'there is no money left!' Bullshit. There is always a solution for everything! Good things are solved only with good back! When talking nice and being creative - things turn to a different direction! But no! we, both men and women have the tendency to strike back, hard. In the meaning that everything goes from bad to worse, expressing everything from years ago up until now. That's just because you, the man, couldn't have sorted out things differently!
I'm not saying women are saints. No, on the contrary. It's just that simple and logic - you give good, you receive good! You give bad, you receive bad! It's karma! If you really wish to have a happy life, you must consider if being in a relationship is the right choice for you. It's hard work and dedication - just like a job. Except that you could receive so much more benefits daily just by putting effort, whereas with work, you work ages and only could step up one ladder higher. You don't live with work! You create your work, just like you create your relationship! If you want an easy life, you can have it! You just need to work for having an easy life and must believe in it 100%. No wonder there are so many people on this planet who get from 0 to billions! We, humans have such an amazing brain that we don't even know it! We can multitask, we can have a family - another human being - we can create love and nurture it or just live in hatred and dark clouds around our heads! Work hard for what's really worth it, not only for something that you believe with all your brains, not your heart. Work hard by choosing an easy path for your life - if you think that working 20 hours a day will bring you loads of money, fine by you! Then, don't complain for what you get! You get exactly what you need and how much you need. Everything you attract, it's there. Right in front of you! Stop for a moment and reflect onto what you've done and what you're doing - are you happy? does that make you feel happy? No? then change! Freaking change because if you don't do it, you make the same mistakes again and again and you don't evolve! You just stagnate, trust me! Every human being has his ups and downs! That's just simply wrong to blame people for their mistakes! Every person goes through struggles in their life and they might just need some help. Instead, they are being constantly reminded of their mistakes! When your partner says they love you, that means they are willing to give everything to him or her. They never forget about anything important to you and most of all, they help you get through struggles not make you get into deeper depression for your mistakes!
Yes, it does start from the person itself when talking about mistakes, but there is not one, but two people in which if none of them do nothing, nothing is done! If only one struggles for something the other doesn't feel important, the other one will literally not care and sooner or later will go away. Does only money matter on this Earth? NO. Modern society just wants to make you believe that. It's all over the internet.
All in all, a relationship is based on mutual trust. If there is no trust, there is nothing. There will be only thorns thrown across your window of happiness. Sooner or later, everyone needs to find his other half. Everything will seem as if you've known that person forever.
Love,
R.